Many couples enter therapy with competing goals or perspectives about the state of their relationship, often accompanied by the "baggage" of their own personal histories. In sessions, I address these differences from a systemic approach to reach a shared definition of what brings the couple to therapy and the resolution they hope to achieve. Couples therapy then works to unify both partners as a team and strengthen their bond. By doing so, couples confront challenges together rather than maintaining the cycle of conflict characterized by resentment and distance between them.
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Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a model based in Attachment Theory, we examine these patterns in the context of family histories, life stages, and external stressors or traumas, so couples begin to understand both their own role in the dynamic as well as their partner's perceptions and intentions. Creating this platform for more open communication allows couples to better express their intentions and to have their needs met in a way which provides greater stability and security in their connection.